If you have been following this Dream Big & Work Hard series, you would know in the first article I brought up a few things that deter you from achieving your dreams. But one of the biggest road blocks in of achieving your dreams may be yourself.
Doubt is a way of life. The road untraveled may be the scariest one.
So here are a few things you can do to fight these fears:
1. Know that you are the controller of your fate
If you want something to happen in your life, you can’t expect for it to land in your lap. You have to put in effort and go out to make sure it happens. This cause alone should be enough motivation to not hold you back, because this says ONLY YOU CAN MAKE THINGS HAPPEN. Hold yourself responsible. Whether it’s trying to get that job promotion, approaching a girl or guy, or buying a new pair of sneakers. It is up to you to go out and make that effort to get what you want.
2. Don’t worry about what others think!
In the first article, I spoke of haters and doubters. They are everywhere. They are closed minded and can not see your bigger plan in this world. They may think something is too different, and it’s not normal. But if being unmotivated, and unsuccessful by their standards is normal. Do you you really want to be blend in and be accepted???
Worry about you, and what makes you happy and what will get you to where you want to be. Because friends and family is all that should matter. And sometimes those friends and family may no be supportive. I still look at this as a opportunity to prove them wrong.
3. Look forward to the future
For someone who has nothing to look forward to in life, life may suck. But for the dreamers and those with goals, life should be an exciting trip with many ups and downs, and as long as quitting is not an option. Yes, I lose motivation a lot (I mean a lot). But I know if I work and work at it, I will get to where I want to be, and I’m so looking forward to getting there.
Know that disappointment is a reality of life. But also know, you really don’t appreciate the good without the bad, and the bad may kick my ass to the ground, but know you are slowly making baby steps to true destination.
Life is a learning experience. Look forward to learning something new, whether it’s success or failure. You will become wiser because of it.
4. Stop comparing yourself to others
Comparing your life with others is a very bad habit. Everyone has different life experiences/situations. Don’t put yourself down because you don’t have what someone else has. Instead, use it as a source of inspiration and make it a goal to strive for. Think if they can do it. You can do it too.
Would you say, I have to go blind like Stevie Wonder to be great at playing piano and make good songs. NO! So you shouldn’t say I have to have a big studio, and tons of fans to make great music. Know if you strive for it. You can make it happen.
5. Believe in yourself
I’m sure you have heard this before, “If you don’t believe in yourself, no one will.” But it’s very true, and it’s essential to get to where you want to be. You have to know that if you need to learn something to get to where you want to be. That you’re going to go out and learn it. You have to know you will succeed by any means necessary. Know if you don’t have bumps in the road, you are doing something wrong. If you don’t have haters/doubters, once again, you are doing something wrong.
These things are essential. Don’t think for a second that your role models, or anyone you look up too, didn’t have these problems that you have. I’m sure they did, and may been even worse. Yet they got through it, and got to where they want to be. And are still striving for more.
Video: Secret To Success
Every one of the points above involves you changing your thought process. This is something that is hard to do. But it is necessary. You need to believe you can achieve, and you must believe the items above are needed to get where you want to be. Nothing comes easy, or over night. So continue to work at it. You only truly fail when you quit.
If you believe you will fail, odds are you will. I think it’s corny anytime I hear that, but it’s very true.
Video: Famous Failures
3 More things to do the help with fighting self doubt
- Post positive thoughts or goals around work and home to be reminded by what you are striving for.
- Repeat positive thoughts out load and in your head. This works at programming your mind to thing positively.
- Share your dreams and goals with others. This will make you accountable for achieving them. Because people will ask you about your progress, and hopefully you will strive to have good then to say about your progress.
Thanks for reading.