How to Be Confident – Dream Big & Work Hard – Part 3

How to Be Confident

If you have been following this Dream Big & Work Hard series, you would know in the first article I brought up a few things that deter you from achieving your dreams. But one of the biggest road blocks in of achieving your dreams may be yourself.

How to Be Confident
How to Be Confident and Believe in Yourself

Doubt is a way of life. The road untraveled may be the scariest one.

So here are a few things you can do to fight these fears:

1. Know that you are the controller of your fate

If you want something to happen in your life, you can’t expect for it to land in your lap. You have to put in effort and go out to make sure it happens. This cause alone should be enough motivation to not hold you back, because this says ONLY YOU CAN MAKE THINGS HAPPEN. Hold yourself responsible. Whether it’s trying to get that job promotion, approaching a girl or guy, or buying a new pair of sneakers. It is up to you to go out and make that effort to get what you want.

2. Don’t worry about what others think!

In the first article, I spoke of haters and doubters. They are everywhere. They are closed minded and can not see your bigger plan in this world. They may think something is too different, and it’s not normal. But if being unmotivated, and unsuccessful by their standards is normal. Do you you really want to be blend in and be accepted???

Worry about you, and what makes you happy and what will get you to where you want to be. Because friends and family is all that should matter. And sometimes those friends and family may no be supportive. I still look at this as a opportunity to prove them wrong.

3. Look forward to the future

For someone who has nothing to look forward to in life, life may suck. But for the dreamers and those with goals, life should be an exciting trip with many ups and downs, and as long as quitting is not an option. Yes, I lose motivation a lot (I mean a lot). But I know if I work and work at it, I will get to where I want to be, and I’m so looking forward to getting there.

Know that disappointment is a reality of life. But also know, you really don’t appreciate the good without the bad, and the bad may kick my ass to the ground, but know you are slowly making baby steps to true destination.

Life is a learning experience. Look forward to learning something new, whether it’s success or failure. You will become wiser because of it.

4. Stop comparing yourself to others

How to Be Confident
How to Be Confident

Comparing your life with others is a very bad habit. Everyone has different life experiences/situations. Don’t put yourself down because you don’t have what someone else has. Instead, use it as a source of inspiration and make it a goal to strive for. Think if they can do it. You can do it too.

Would you say, I have to go blind like Stevie Wonder to be great at playing piano and make good songs. NO! So you shouldn’t say I have to have a big studio, and tons of fans to make great music. Know if you strive for it. You can make it happen.

5. Believe in yourself

It's Nothing

I’m sure you have heard this before, “If you don’t believe in yourself, no one will.” But it’s very true, and it’s essential to get to where you want to be. You have to know that if you need to learn something to get to where you want to be. That you’re going to go out and learn it. You have to know you will succeed by any means necessary. Know if you don’t have bumps in the road, you are doing something wrong. If you don’t have haters/doubters, once again, you are doing something wrong.

These things are essential. Don’t think for a second that your role models, or anyone you look up too, didn’t have these problems that you have. I’m sure they did, and may been even worse. Yet they got through it, and got to where they want to be. And are still striving for more.

Video: Secret To Success

Conclusion

Every one of the points above involves you changing your thought process. This is something that is hard to do. But it is necessary. You need to believe you can achieve, and you must believe the items above are needed to get where you want to be. Nothing comes easy, or over night. So continue to work at it. You only truly fail when you quit.

If you believe you will fail, odds are you will. I think it’s corny anytime I hear that, but it’s very true.

Video: Famous Failures

3 More things to do the help with fighting self doubt

  1. Post positive thoughts or goals around work and home to be reminded by what you are striving for.
  2. Repeat positive thoughts out load and in your head. This works at programming your mind to thing positively.
  3. Share your dreams and goals with others. This will make you accountable for achieving them. Because people will ask you about your progress, and hopefully you will strive to have good then to say about your progress.

Thanks for reading.

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18 Comments

  1. real talk I was thinking about givivng this music thing up but this has just open my eyes wide.

    1. @ da anadote

      Dont give up music. I think a lot of people such as myself my get into music because of what we see and hear on the radio and tv. And in real life it may not work like that because its a lot of drama and B.S. to get to where you want to be.

      All I would say is, think about why you first started making music. Personally I would say, for me, music is a way of life. I listen to it every day. They radio sucks, and I hate it because of what they play. But I think about when I find a singer or rapper or producer that is different, and it inspires me. And i want to make some music, it always happens like that, and it will never stop.

      Don’t lose hope.

  2. Good shit Mark, inspired me. Your words and the words of the secret to succes dude. Keep going. Peace!

  3. Great post and sick videos…thanks for taking the time to put this shit together man. I am making this my homepage, and great site btw.

  4. Wassup fam? I’m a producer, songwriter, artist, engineer, graphic designer. I found this site like a year ago when I was online looking for some drum sounds for my “MPC”. I was on google and I saw “100 Free kick drums”. I downloaded them and signed up on the email list to receive email updates about the site and I have to say that every time I get an email from your site, it’s something relevant and refreshing. I’m on Reason 4.0 now and the refill downloads and links were great. A producer with fresh sounds is like kid in a candy store. The videos are great and the motivational stuff is something that we all need. No other site offers that. So I just wanted to say, “Thank You” You are very appreciated!!! Davince Capone. http://www.myspace.com/davincecapone

    1. @ Davince Capone

      Thanks for the comment. Also thanks for recognizing that I’m trying to bring something different. Yes at moments I do filler post (such as videos) because I cant write something meaningful daily, but the overall purpose of this site is to equip and inspire others to do big things. and I don’t care if its music, graphic design, getting a new job, what ever. I just want people to dream big, and try to make them happen. Because I believe they can.

      Comments like yours is why I think all the hard work is worth it. So thank you in return.

  5. Dude, thx. looking forward to the next part.

    I really like the dream big series!!!

  6. I never saw this blog before but man! This is really inspiring. I have always had dreams but for the past years i have given up on them.
    My life lost its color and it was so bad i lost a lot of things. I guess this is my wake up call.
    Thank u!

  7. Mark I think this a great sight man, keep up the good work. the world needs more people like you. i also have dreams but the music industry is so hard to get into, unless you have the right connections. but to everyone goodluck with everthing. hope for the best

  8. hey i’m an female boxer and i just wanted to say this helped me alot. my dream is to be the female ali and i doubt if such a thing is even possible but reading this always helps me I have it saved in my bookmarks. thank you so much for sharing your thoughts! God Bless.

  9. Hey man I really like what you say. This is the stuff we need to get out to those who struggle everyday just trying to get by and make better for themselves. I’m tired of all the negativity. Life is tough but the only way to get through it is by being tough. You gotta dream big, work hard, and just keep pushing. People get too caught in the negative cycle and never go anywhere. We gotta change that. I’m glad you’re doing that. Keep doin’ whatcha doin’ man.

  10. thanks you man for doing this article i will always have thsi thought in my head never give up